What do you do when the shepherd (pastor) preys on the flock instead of protecting it?
Narcissism is in the news every day. Narcissist athletes, celebrities, musicians, politicians, pastors...
Wait a minute - did I just write "pastors"? Well, yes, I did.

Most people have a mental picture of pastors. At its worst, the image seems benign like the one here. I wish it were not, but reality says that a disproportionate number are not only narcissistic, they have what many have called malignant narcissism, which is a very dangerous personality disorder.

I have met them. I have worked with their churches. I have seen the devastation these wolves in sheep's clothing cause. I have wept with their victims. They are as real as real can be. They are shepherds whose flocks are on the menu!

We Pray, They Pray - Recognizing and Countering Narcissist Pastors is research=based but it is not an academic book. It is designed to help the average person understand the scourge of narcissist pastors and the damage they cause, and offers strategies to protect yourself and your church.

Nobody knows how many there are but I can tell you from experience that there are too many!

The book has been expanded with new material and I have added victim stories I have collected over the last four years, as well as a chapter on narcissist pastors as spouses and parents. It is not a pretty picture.

Despite the seeming innocence of the pastor in the picture below, it's a disguise - and a very effective one! 
That's me!

Why did I pull Let Us Prey from publication last summer? I tend to overexplain, which is something I just did but I will spare you from it. I wrote a full single-spaced page, which I just deleted.

The answer is simple and straightforward. My coauthor admitted that he had altered the categories in the scoring mechanism to say what he thought it should say. By that simple action he invalidated almost two years of research and dissolved the basis for his doctoral dissertation and forced me to contact the publisher and have the book pulled from publication immediately.

I was accused by some of research fraud but that disappeared when my coauthor sent out a letter clearly stating that I had no knowledge of what he did and did not participate in the deception in any way.

So, here we are. The revised edition is in print. It has been thoroughly vetted for accuracy based on published research and my experiences in working with churches that had a narcissist in the pulpit.

Why did I pull Let Us Prey from publication last summer? I tend to overexplain, which is something I just did but I will spare you from it. I wrote a full single-spaced page, which I just deleted.
The answer is simple and straightforward. My coauthor admitted that he had altered the categories in the scoring mechanism to say what he thought it should say. By that simple action he invalidated almost two years of research and dissolved the basis for his doctoral dissertation and forced me to contact the publisher and have the book pulled from publication immediately.
I was accused by some of research fraud but that disappeared when my coauthor sent out a letter clearly stating that I had no knowledge of what he did and did not participate in the deception in any way. 
So, here we are. The revised edition is in print. It has been thoroughly vetted for accuracy based on published research and my experiences in working with churches that had a narcissist in the pulpit.

Why did I pull Let Us Prey from publication last summer? I tend to overexplain, which is something I just did but I will spare you from it. I wrote a full single-spaced page, which I just deleted.

The answer is simple and straightforward. My coauthor admitted that he had altered the categories in the scoring mechanism to say what he thought it should say. By that simple action he invalidated almost two years of research and dissolved the basis for his doctoral dissertation and forced me to contact the publisher and have the book pulled from publication immediately.

I was accused by some of research fraud but that disappeared when my coauthor sent out a letter clearly stating that I had no knowledge of what he did and did not participate in the deception in any way.


So, here we are. The revised edition is in print. It has been thoroughly vetted for accuracy based on published research and my experiences in working with churches that had a narcissist in the pulpit.